Friday, 24 March 2017

Words Hurt.


We have all said something that we really didn't mean in the hear of the moment and most of will apologise and recognise we were wrong in what we said. Sadly, when it comes to mental health, many people still have a terrible attitude towards it.

Over the years I have been called all sorts and I know I have posted about this before but the stigma is still very much a massive problem for many and stops them from speaking out and getting the help and support they need,

I have a loved one who wants to speak out but won't as they feel people won't understand and will be negative towards them.  Obviously I know the person and have explained that those who truly love and care for them will be there for them no matter what and to never ever be ashamed of their diagnosis as at the end of the day they are still the same person, they are not their diagnosis.

People are supportive of those with conditions you can see, that have physical presence, and health conditions that you can't see such as asthma, COPD, diabetes to name a few yet they don't have the same respect for people living with mental health conditions.

Here are just some of the words and phrases I have heard and I am sure you have too.


  • Get over it
  • put your stress down and move on
  • what do you have to be anxious/depressed about?
  • People wear it as a badge of honour
  • It's an excuse to be lazy
  • You are weird
  • Freak
  • nutter
  • Looney
  • boring
  • You should be locked up


Yes they are only words but they still hurt.  Why not use the following phrases instead?


  • I am here for you
  • You can talk to me
  • How can I help
  • You can do this
  • You will get better
  • I love you
  • You have always been and always will be my friend.
  • You are not alone
It is not hard to get information on mental health conditions, with access to the Internet and even talking to mental health charities, it will take an hour of your time to educate yourself but will mean a lifetime of happiness to someone.


10 comments:

  1. A lovely post.
    People really do need to slow down and think before they speak

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    1. I agree. If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all xx

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  2. I think attitudes have got a lot better towards mental health now and I would like to think that I wouldn't respond like that

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    1. They are getting better slowly but sadly the stigma still exists. I think you would be very kind and respectful in your response to someone in need xx

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  3. I totally agree that people who do not understand mental health should take the time to educate themselves.
    Sorry you have had to hear those awful words.
    My sister suffers from mental health and was called one of those names listed aove by someone who lives in our town. Another blogger in fact!!
    So thank you for publishing this post and i hope readers will take note xx

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    1. I am so sorry to hear your sister experienced horrible name calling. Really upsets and angers me. I hope she is ok. Xx

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  4. It's amazing how much even the most innocently said things can hurt isn't it? I think people really should think before they say anything hurtful, but people should really think before they say anything at all, as it can come across so badly can't it?

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    1. It really can come across wrong and I also think comments on Facebook can be taken out of context too as you don't know how it is meant. Xx

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  5. Your so right, there are so many better ways of showing your support and I will think carefully how I phrase things from now on x

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    1. I think we can all be guilty of saying something without thinking. I tend to be more mindful now as I've been on the receiving end of it xx

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